Sometimes the very best relationships for us provide stability and security instead of excitement.
My first fiancé proposed to me at a Sonic Youth concert. I was so drunk that I didn’t remember if the proposal had actually happened when I woke up the next morning.
Our relationship was built on adrenaline.
We ran from the cops a couple of times. I learned how…
And why other people may give up on their partners too.
Note: These gender roles can be reversed.
When I took off my wedding and engagement rings and set them on the kitchen counter after telling my then husband I wanted a divorce, it wasn’t because I didn’t love him anymore.
Far from it.
I married him because I loved him…
It seems impossible, right? But it’s not!
With all of the “here for hook-ups” and the polyamorous/open/ethically non-monogamous and just plain married guys and gals or couples seeking their “unicorns,” how could you ever hope to find someone looking for something real just like you?
It’s not impossible. It happens for a lot of couples, including, much…
How you can strengthen your relationship before (and after) you have kids.
I love my children. I’m so grateful I had them.
But I’d be lying if I said they didn’t make things difficult.
It’s harder to find time alone. It’s harder to want to be intimate when one or both of us recently changed a poopy diaper or is covered with…
A lot of advice might come from a good place, but that doesn’t mean you should follow it.
As a Relationship Coach and a female human, I’ve read so much dating advice directed at women. I’ve found that too many can be damaging, sexist, or easily misinterpreted.
If you’re a woman who’s newly dating, young, or just need a reality-check, here is the advice you should roll your…
Size doesn’t matter as much as your attention to your partner and your attitude do.
We all judge our partners in bed. We’ve all had terrible partners. We’ve (hopefully) all had good ones too. We might even have special ranking systems that we’ve assigned to particular partners (very good at being dominant, liked to try new things, super sexy, etc.). All of us do it.
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Tips from a Relationship Coach to help you get the relationship you want.
On my article, “Why Dating Smart Women Is the Best Decision You Could Make,” a reader commented,
“A man’s lizard brain has about as much use for an intelligent female as a dog does for a sweater.”
He’s not wrong, but let’s break down why that shouldn’t matter to you…
Scheduling some time between the sheets can be an easy way to make sure you connect with your partner.
At my six week check-up following the birth of my youngest, my OB said, “You can have sex physically, but only have it if you feel comfortable.”
I wasn’t comfortable honestly. My body still felt like it wasn’t my own. I’d lost barely any weight since the birth, and I…
Not having bad habits is what separates the healthy from the unhealthy couples.
I grew up believing a healthy relationship was all about finding the right person. If a couple wasn’t healthy, it simply meant they weren’t “soulmates.”
What I’ve learned, as both a human and as a Relationship Coach, is that healthy relating skills are learned. Some of us are lucky enough…
As a Relationship Coach, it’s the #1 thing I recommend to couples.
I first heard heard of a “Fair Fighting Contract” over a decade ago when my ex-husband and I were in couples counseling. We’d made the appointment because we fought in ways that were disrespectful at the least, and mean at the worst.
“A fair fighting contract?” I scoffed.
Our therapist…
