I lived, but that was the problem. — I nearly died after my twins were born. The “nearly” here is important because when I contacted five lawyers afterward to try to sue for medical negligence, the fact that I was alive and well was a problem. If I hadn’t been, they would have taken the suit in a…

I’ve spent a lot of my life thinking I’d somehow be the exception, but more often than not, I’ve been the rule. — I recognized he was being pushy, but I excused it. This was what I wanted, wasn’t it? I couldn’t say so myself. I didn’t intend to embark on an affair when I met the man who would become my affair partner. Though I had filed for divorce from my husband…

“Choreplay” and the myth of housework and desire — My husband does our family’s laundry. If I believed in “choreplay,” I’d film a Tiktok of him emptying our laundry basket and set it to a song like “One Margarita.” …

But learning how gay/lesbian couples handle division of labor can help. — Even though my parents had a traditional marriage, my mother never romanticized being a stay-at-home parent. She told me, in fact, to do the opposite. “Never depend on a man,” she told me multiple times. “Get educated. Get a job.” So I did. I got a Bachelor’s degree and then…

The rise and fall of Sarah Mapp, the famous female bonesetter — She couldn’t have been petite, delicate, or demure. In fact, in caricatures circulated of her, she was as compact as a muscled toad, and she had to have been to be a “bonesetter,” what we would view today as an 18th century orthopedist. …

…and I’ve never regretted it. — “Are you okay?” my then-husband asked. I blinked and looked at him. “Why?” “You’ve been washing your hands for probably five minutes now.” “Oh,” I said and turned off the sink and wiped my hands on a towel. I’d been thinking of all of the things I needed to do…

Women are initiating 69%+ of divorces, and inequitable division of labor is becoming more and more of a reason why. — I got divorced in 2018 for many reasons, but unequal division of labor was a top one. You might think me petty. You might also think, Why on earth would you leave a man who loved you and was faithful to you because he didn’t help with the kids or…

While some argue that this is a sign of progress for women’s empowerment and independence, it still should be a cause for concern. — Divorce isn’t something I would wish on anyone. There’s nothing quite like having all of these witnesses to the end of your relationship; lawyers and judges and mediators who are the only ones directly benefiting from your relationship’s demise. In reality, nobody wins when it comes to divorce.

Toxic relationships can have a severe impact on us. — Entering into a relationship SHOULD be an exciting experience. But in my case, the majority of my relationships ended with me in pieces wondering what happened. Because of that, I often entered into new relationships full of tension and anxiety, waiting for the inevitable curtain to drop and reveal that…