As a child, I always felt something was . . . not right. It wasn’t wrong per se, but it certainly wasn’t right.
I couldn’t have told you what wasn’t right, but I felt it had something to do with me. I also guessed it had something to do with my mother, something about the stories she’d told about my parents’ wedding, my father’s disowning by his parents, and my father’s coolness toward me growing up.
Most families have their secrets, but children are perceptive, especially to big secrets. …
My first boyfriend was skeletal with strawberry blond hair to his shoulders. He liked going to raves and pre-gaming with ecstasy.
I played the “Who can scream the loudest?” game for over a year with the next guy I dated.
After him, was a drug addict who nearly took me down with him.
Then one who cheated on me over and over again with a woman I knew.
Then one who made up whole aspects of his personality just to hook me, and then another that treated me so badly for so long that I don’t even know how I…
My aunt was, at her heaviest, well over 400 pounds.
She didn’t get there quickly. She got there over years. Every year ending with her a little heavier than when it’d started.
She once told us the story of how she lost a bar of soap under her own boob and didn’t find it until the next time she took a bath.
She was funny. She owned her body, but she didn’t love it. She felt it grew around her without her explicit permission.
Then she decided to have a gastric bypass. A miracle surgery. …
When I was in my early 20s, I was done with guys. My boyfriend had cheated on me (several times), and I was perfectly content staying single and celibate until my body turned to dust.
But unfortunately, the men around me had other ideas.
My closest guy friend confessed his love for me after his third beer with his girlfriend in the very next room. My eye doctor told me with tears in his eyes that his wife had recently left him . . . …
I’ve always had guy friends. I’ve been told I’m “just like one of the guys” more times than I can count, and I helped a lot of them in their dating lives. It’s this that likely made it why, for many years, I had mostly male clients.
Men have come to me in every stage of the relationship process (inexperienced to the very experienced), and I’ve heard some of the terrible advice they’ve been given by friends, relatives, nosy old marrieds, etc. …
No one is born innately good at relationships. We must have relationships, yes, but we have to learn how to have them. I struggled endlessly in how to have relationships while I was growing up. My models were terrible, and I felt unequipped to handle even the most minor of conflicts.
What I’ve found in my years as a human in relationships as well as a relationship coach is that the ONLY way to become good at relationships is practice and diligence. Enthusiasm helps too since you’re more likely to work at something you’re happy to work on.
I was skeptical about what a “smart” vibrator could bring to my sex life.
I know what I like, and I’m comfortable with myself, but I still was curious, especially when I discovered that some smart vibrators include data of your orgasms. I looked online and saw beautiful graphs that correlated to what must have happened to equal those toe-curling fireworks.
My curiosity won out, and I got a smart vibrator. Then I saw my very own orgasm data:
Simon and I had offices less than 10 feet from one another for 4 years, but I’d never given him much thought until after we both attended the same work conference during my separation from my then husband.
During a lunch break between sessions, he told me he was going to a used bookstore nearby.
Surprised, I said, “Could I come along?”
“Sure,” he said.
After we’d perused two different bookstores, we each ordered an espresso at a cute cafe. I looked at him across the table from me and thought, “Interesting.”
Three months after I’d filed for divorce, Simon…
If you’ve found yourself continually unsatisfied in the bedroom portion of your romantic relationships, you’re not alone.
Lovehoney, a popular UK sex toy company, researched how sex impacts mental health and happiness across all genders, sexualities, and locations. Named the Sexual Happiness Study 2019, they surveyed over 3000 people in the US, UK, and Australia from ages 18 to 65.
Sadly, the study confirmed that women are having less sexual satisfaction and less orgasms than men. Of the women surveyed, only 71% reported regular orgasms during sex, compared to 91% of men. …
“Baby’s crying,” I murmured, half-asleep.
My husband groaned. “Again?”
“Yup. You want to get her or me?” I asked.
“I will,” he said. He sighed and got up.
This is our 4th kid, and the getting up late in the night is still not any easier.
Despite the sleeplessness and caring for a new little life along with 3 other kids who are constantly vying for our attention, my husband and I are currently in another “Honeymoon” phase.
We all know that phase, and some of us would wish that we’d stay in this phase forever, but, as a Relationship…