Matt Haig’s The Midnight Library has a lesson for all of us. — I was engaged. The diamond ring glittered on my left hand the night my then fiancé, the man who’d asked me to spend a life with him, have children with, build a home and a life with, called me a “cunt” and punched a door. I tried to get away…

Tips on how you can start saving money too — In mid-July, my husband was picking up another Amazon box from our front porch when he said, “It’s really freaking me out that we have a delivery driver walking up to our house multiple times a day every day.” I crossed my arms in front of my chest. “Honeyyy, I…

Steps that allow you to change how you act and show up in future relationships — I woke up in my daughter’s bed in my children’s bedroom. The room was dark, but it’d been early afternoon when I’d crawled into it sobbing. …

Let these books open the door for you and your partner to have new conversations about what you like, what you want, and how to get it. — In my sessions with couples, we always talk about sex. If a couple is struggling to communicate in their day-to-day life, it’s highly likely that they also struggle communicating between the sheets. Sexual intimacy, at its core, isn’t all that different from emotional intimacy. …

This popular taboo fantasy can be something fun and safe that you and your partner try next in the bedroom. — I was alone in my bedroom. But he must have known that. He must have known that I’d probably go about my nightly routine without a second thought to making sure the kitchen window was latched. I didn’t hear him until he was already in my bedroom. I dropped the…

1. There’s no “normal,” only what’s “normal” to us as individuals. — I grew up in the southern United States after the rise of abstinence-only-until-marriage sex-education programs. We didn’t learn about STDs, contraceptives, or other safe sex practices. We didn’t learn how sex worked or how it could be pleasurable instead of just for conception. …

If our heart has been bulldozed, we might want to swear off relationships altogether, but we shouldn’t. — After some terrible relationships, I avoided them altogether. They seemed to be the equivalent of a throat punch, and who wants to sign up for that? I did eventually, though, put myself out there again. I got married and then it ended disastrously. I could have sworn off relationships altogether…

It was only a matter of time. — I went to a work conference in a town five hours away with Simon, a colleague I knew only casually. It’s normal to hang out with other colleagues at these things, and I didn’t think anything of it when he told me he wanted to skip a session to check…

If you are a man who considers himself a lover of women, make sure you’re acting that way wherever you are, and most especially, in the bedroom. — Roughly 1/3 of women say that at some point they’ve experienced “squirting,” often used interchangeably with the term “female ejaculation.” Though most say it has only happened once or twice. The most obnoxious thing I’ve found from being a squirter myself is that some men are just not into how…