I’ve spent a lot of my life thinking I’d somehow be the exception, but more often than not, I’ve been the rule. — I recognized he was being pushy, but I excused it. This was what I wanted, wasn’t it? I couldn’t say so myself. I didn’t intend to embark on an affair when I met the man who would become my affair partner. Though I had filed for divorce from my husband…

“Choreplay” and the myth of housework and desire — My husband does our family’s laundry. If I believed in “choreplay,” I’d film a Tiktok of him emptying our laundry basket and set it to a song like “One Margarita.” …

But learning how gay/lesbian couples handle division of labor can help. — Even though my parents had a traditional marriage, my mother never romanticized being a stay-at-home parent. She told me, in fact, to do the opposite. “Never depend on a man,” she told me multiple times. “Get educated. Get a job.” So I did. I got a Bachelor’s degree and then…

The rise and fall of Sarah Mapp, the famous female bonesetter — She couldn’t have been petite, delicate, or demure. In fact, in caricatures circulated of her, she was as compact as a muscled toad, and she had to have been to be a “bonesetter,” what we would view today as an 18th century orthopedist. …

…and I’ve never regretted it. — “Are you okay?” my then-husband asked. I blinked and looked at him. “Why?” “You’ve been washing your hands for probably five minutes now.” “Oh,” I said and turned off the sink and wiped my hands on a towel. I’d been thinking of all of the things I needed to do…

Women are initiating 69%+ of divorces, and inequitable division of labor is becoming more and more of a reason why. — I got divorced in 2018 for many reasons, but unequal division of labor was a top one. You might think me petty. You might also think, Why on earth would you leave a man who loved you and was faithful to you because he didn’t help with the kids or…

While some argue that this is a sign of progress for women’s empowerment and independence, it still should be a cause for concern. — Divorce isn’t something I would wish on anyone. There’s nothing quite like having all of these witnesses to the end of your relationship; lawyers and judges and mediators who are the only ones directly benefiting from your relationship’s demise. In reality, nobody wins when it comes to divorce.

Toxic relationships can have a severe impact on us. — Entering into a relationship SHOULD be an exciting experience. But in my case, the majority of my relationships ended with me in pieces wondering what happened. Because of that, I often entered into new relationships full of tension and anxiety, waiting for the inevitable curtain to drop and reveal that…

It can happen to anyone because our own trust is used against us. — I’d been married for six years when I found drugs in my house. While my infant twins were napping, I’d decided to hang a tiny canvas painting that celebrated coffee on the wall above my kitchen cabinets. While up there, I glanced along the dirty dusty line of the top…