Not having bad habits is what separates the healthy from the unhealthy couples. — I grew up believing a healthy relationship was all about finding the right person. If a couple wasn’t healthy, it simply meant they weren’t “soulmates.” What I’ve learned, as both a human and as a Relationship Coach, is that healthy relating skills are learned. Some of us are lucky enough…

These tactics, as uncomfy as they may feel, may help you find the kind of happiness I’ve found. — Prior to dating my second husband, I looked back at all of my relationships and all I could see was a slew of dumpster fires. Each one had been unhealthy, abusive, and/or toxic. I’ve since learned that a healthy relationship must include three things: love, trust, and respect, and all…

Steps that allow you to change how you act and show up in future relationships — I woke up in my daughter’s bed in my children’s bedroom. The room was dark, but it’d been early afternoon when I’d crawled into it sobbing. …

ADHD can have a huge impact on a romantic relationship, so it’s important to know all we can to handle it in a healthy fashion. — As a Certified Relationship Coach, I’ve worked with many couples where one or both partners have ADHD. I know too how fascinating and dismaying ADHD can be to a relationship because my own sweetheart has ADHD. ADHD can have a huge impact on a romantic relationship, and it’s important to…

Abusive relationships are a serious issue that affect people of all genders, but men often face additional barriers. — “That’s abuse. You’re being abused,” I said halfway through a session with a client. My client, a competent and successful man who’d come to me for help with his communication issues with his partner, sat back in his chair. “Really?” he said. He ran his fingers through his hair and…

Tips on how to navigate “relationship anxiety” — He hadn’t texted me back in over an hour. What is going on? I asked myself. He’s NEVER gone this long without texting me back! I frantically paced our living room and started listing the worst-case scenarios in my head: cheating on me, unconscious, being held at gunpoint, dead… When…

Tips on how to protect yourself from manipulation and deceit — “I think she’s a narcissist,” my client said. “What makes you think that?” I asked. “I just looked up all of the signs, and she has all of them.” My client’s story was a story too many of us have: a stirring passionate love affair, feeling like you’d found “the…

Learn how to stop fueling self-doubt, so you can try new things and reach your goals. — My face was red, but I hoped my co-host, Kerry, couldn’t see it. Well, that was shit, I told myself. It was our first day recording together for our podcast, “Breaking Free From Narcissistic Abuse.” …

It could be a sign of a serious issue. — “Red is the color of lust, but green is what lust leaves behind, in heart... Green is what is left when ardor fades, when passion dies, when we die, too.” — Essel from “The Green Knight” The following couples once soaked each other in, explored and knew each other through…